Knowing is not understanding. There is a great difference between knowing and understanding: you can know a lot about something and not really understand it.
There’s a certain association that we place in word “end”. The end of an job. The end of an era. The end of a life. The term creatures of habit explains in a sense why we can be so averse to this word of end; because it means change. It means that our way of living and what we are used to is about to be throw upside down and no longer be how it’s been. The comfort of knowing in general how things are going to be, the capability to predict what is going to happen next in our lives is gone. An unknown begins to creep into our view… and it’s scary.
It’s normal though. Yes. As in everyone goes through this with every scenario imaginable out there. You are not alone. You can get through this.
Transitions by William Bridges gives awesome insight into that point in our lives between the end of something and the beginning of something new. Thus called “Transition”.
A idea that is brought up numerous times is the simple fact that in order to be reborn, to become better, something else has to end. There is no new you without the old you ending. If you stay within your comfort space of mediocrity, you will never give yourself a chance to live that good life you deserve.
A key stage into into accepting that “end”, is a transitional stage called the “Neutral” zone. Neither the old or yet the new. What is important to understand is that there is no skipping this
“Neutral” zone. It’s not just new you right away and it goes over the dangers of skipping this step that some people tend to do. An example given in the book is in a relationship scope. When a significant other will state that they are over an ex, and yet does not what to talk about.
If it has any semblance of control over you and how you may act in any shape or form, you may not have transitioned. The key is accepting that. Accepting that things are what things are. And only then will an End, truly end and mark a new beginning. In order to reach that point, one must take time to understand what happened.
In a business approach, it reminds of Richard Branson’s take of writing things down. Taking the time to reflect on things and understand what that point in time was all about. A chance for closure. Reviewing.
In a religious sense, Jesus many times would leave in order to be alone. To reflect on a decision that was made or has to be made.
This neutral zone is key to advancement in all areas of life and there are some cool specific examples of this that is reviewed in the book.
Back to the quote. “Knowing is not understanding. There is a great difference between knowing and understanding: you can know a lot about something and not really understand it.”
Yes I know it’s scary. But do you understand why it’s scary? Take the time to understand what happened in your life before you move on to the next stage. Only then will you ever be able to reach the greatest “you”.